Ladies: If He Hits You Once, He Will Hit You Again - Rama Brew

Rama Brew has advised women to sensibly navigate the social pressures placed on them by society when it comes to marriages.

One such is getting out of an abusive marriage no matter what others say.

She tackled the false narrative that women are advised to enact, staying in physically abusive relationships with the hopes of using "love" to change the man involved.

According to her, while speaking in an interview with the host of Today’s Woman Michelle Attoh on TV3, that is a whole lot of nonsense talk.

“What I would be against is physical abuse. If a man hits you once, he is going to hit you again. And the warning signs are there right from the beginning. The red flags are always there right from the beginning, so you would be a fool to think that; oh, he loves me, I can change him with my love. That’s a whole lot of hogwash”

Rama Brew further spoke on more marital issues, as she noted that women have been unfairly marginalised in the current society.

‘So if you are a young mother that has just got married, and you have one child. What is the hurry to have a second, and a third, and a fourth when you are not financially stable enough to carry that burden?‘

"Having a child is a 20-year project and beyond. So if you have a first child, it will be wise to save your money, have that child, prepare and lay the foundation for future children. When you have them back to back, who are you going to blame?"

"I mean, then you are stretching yourself thin. The children will get sick if they are not eating well. They will be stressed out depending on the dynamics between your husband and yourself. It is a mote of the bomb that is going to explode.” She explained.

Per her estimation, women get stressed out because they try to please too many people instead of settling down to take care of themselves.

She maintained that only people ready for marriage should go for marriage.

‘‘I agree, but it takes two to tango. So before you and your husband decide to have children, you have to discuss it. You are not having children for family or friends, so there should be family planning. You shouldn’t be pressurized by anybody to have children,” she concluded.